- The Men's Lodge
Tending the Fire
A full day of embodied work — going deeper into what it means to be a man who lives with integrity, connection, and purpose.
Duration
Full day
Format
In-person
For
Men only
Recommended Prerequisite
Webinar
Keep the flame alive
The spark you felt in the webinar — this is where you tend it. A full day together with other men, guided by Alex and Dirk, to go beneath the surface. To feel what you’ve been avoiding. To speak what you’ve been holding. To discover the fire that’s been waiting for you.
Embodied Presence
Drop from the head into the body. Learn to feel, to listen, to stay present when things get real.
Authentic Expression
Speak your truth without armour. Discover the power that comes from being truly seen.
Brotherhood & Trust
Build deep connections with other men. Experience what becomes possible when the masks come off.
Purpose & Direction
Reconnect with what matters most. Begin to align your outer life with your inner truth.
Event details
What this workshop is really about
This is not about becoming someone else.
It is about removing what is currently in the way.
When you are fully in your body, something changes.
You stop hesitating.
You stop performing.
You stop forcing.
You feel more.
You lead more naturally.
You connect more deeply.
How we work
The day is built around three core processes:
1. Eliminating energy leaks
So you stop unconsciously draining your own vitality and presence.
2. Reconnecting head, heart, and sexual energy
So your desire, words, and actions become more congruent.
3. Embodied practices that create real-time shift
So you do not have to try harder, but can respond more honestly and naturally in the moment.
This workshop is for you if:
- you are tired of overthinking intimacy
- you feel a gap between your desire and your actions
- you want to lead in a way that feels grounded and natural
- you know there is more available in your relationships than what you are currently living
This workshop is not for you if:
- you are looking for scripts, tricks, or pickup tactics
- you want a quick fix without doing honest inner work
- you are unwilling to look at how you actually show up
Upcoming Dates
No upcoming events at this time.
Closed Community Access
Tending the Fire — WhatsApp Group
After the workshop, you'll be invited into a closed WhatsApp group exclusively for Tending the Fire participants — a space to stay connected, integrate your experience, and continue the work together.
FAQ
Yes, you can. The only requirement is the willingness to show up.
Not in a narrow or technical sense.
The workshop uses intimacy and sexual energy as part of a bigger exploration of presence, power, connection, and how you show up as a man. It is grounded, respectful, and focused on lived experience rather than performance.
That is completely normal. Many men feel some hesitation before stepping into a space like this.
You will not be pushed to do anything performative or beyond your limits. The day is structured to help you arrive gradually, work at a human pace, and stay connected to yourself throughout.
No. You can join this workshop even if you have never done any men’s work before.
If you have attended the webinar, you will already know a bit about how we work, but it is not required.
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